Turn Your Setbacks into Comebacks

I decided to take a short break from blogging a little over a month ago. So much has changed in such a short amount of time. Taking breaks are essential for growth. I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news but sometimes we can’t do it all at once, and I’m okay with that.

I am guilty of getting too ahead of myself every now and then, especially when something or someone new enters my life. During this break, I experienced a lot of karmic debt and lessons that I have been avoiding. I learned the power of intention. I used to be so indecisive, and lacked the willpower to stand up for what I believe in by putting up those boundaries. Sometimes remaining neutral and being a shoulder to cry on will get you no where but mixed up in everyone’s problems. Problems that aren’t actually yours but when you are so empathetic you feel the need to be the peace maker by doing what is right. But sometimes it’s best to fight your own battles, you are actually doing a disservice to others soul missions by intervening. Whether those intentions were good or bad, it doesn’t matter. If it does not directly affect you, it has nothing to do with you.

I saw true colors in the people around me, along with in my own reflection. Accountability is the first step of change. We are infinite spiritual beings having a temporary human experience. Remember that. Isn’t it freeing and humbling?

My sister and I have officially started our first business Soleil Beauty Lounge and it only took 2 months of dedication! We got a space, certifications, LLC’s, insurances, supplies, and furniture. Now we are in the process of setting up, and taking model clients for social media. It still hasn’t hit us yet, I honestly don’t think I will have that “aha moment” until a year from now when we are comfortable in routine, in my apartment, with my dream car, and golden pup of course! With the combination of consistency and help from the universe you are absolutely unstoppable.

I will be posting before and after pictures of our place, along with details about the journey to becoming an entrepreneur at 21. Never let age stop you from anything, I had SO many people project their fears onto me. Just understand that no one can see your vision as fully as you can, and it’s not your job to convince them other wise.

Comment down below if you have a business idea you have been sleeping on I would love to hear about it!

Spread pure love

Xx

Alayna

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Allow Yourself to be a Beginner

Regarding the cover image to this post, not going to lie.. I’ve sent out a few shady “who’s this?” texts back in the day, when you know damn well who that is. Well ladies and gents, today we don’t have time to be shady. We’ve got dreams to chase, and goals to create. The first step to making your dream life a reality is abandoning your comfort zone and let yourself look like an idiot. That’s right! If you want to master something you have to let yourself be a beginner. Which means you’re going to make mistakes, it’s not going to be perfect, and you’re going to want to quite 9/10 of the time. But you need to gain the will power and determination along with consistency, in order to reach these goals.

You’ve got to build new habits to change the result. If you’re body isn’t where you want it to be, you start lifting at the gym and make healthier choices. If you want to be a morning person, slowly start going to bed an hour earlier and waking up an hour earlier. It’s a process it takes about a month if not more to build strong habits, there will always be distractions you just have to have the dedication to stay on track.

Once you learn consistency and dedication it flourish in every aspect of your life. You will be more inspired to try new things, and have the confidence to take anything head on.

I challenge you take make a list with three columns. The first column stating what you are currently doing that is positively impacting your life and supporting your goals. The second column are habits you are doing that don’t support your goals and negatively impacting you. In the third column write new habits to place in your daily routine that will get you closer to where you want to be. Sometimes it’s effective to write lists here and there to keep ourselves accountable. By breaking down goals, little by little, they don’t seem so out of reach. Focus on these 24 hours in front of you, ask yourself “What is one thing I can do today, that will get me closer to my goal?” Start little, it’s better than not starting at all.

By the way happy Monday y’all! It’s a start of a new week with endless possibilities. Thanks for checking in, I’ll be going out of town this weekend so stay tuned for the mystery destination.. I’ll be doing a few posts from there.

Xx

Read This If You’re Missing an Old Friend

Hi guys, I hope you’re all having a great weekend. This has really been on my mind this past month or so. I want to write a quickie about missing someone who is no longer in your life, you outgrew, or let go. We will all experience this at least a few times in our lives. I’ve experienced it twice, within the last three years.

One was a 10 year long best friend, who was more like a sister. The other way a on and off best friend of 5 years, who I shared so many unforgettable experiences with. I have learned so much from both of those relationships, I now look at them with a completely unbiased opinion. There are always two sides to every story, two perspectives, two realities. From my view point, I remember feeling shrunk by both of them. I couldn’t be my authentic self, share my absolute wildest dreams, and fears with security. I felt that their intentions were not pure. Honestly there were times where they proved that to be true.

At the time I didn’t know this was my intuition. It so clearly was God and the Universe guiding me to see certain things in people they mask to others, their true self and intentions. Along with uncomfortable situations, for their benefit. Pay attention to the people you are surrounding yourself with. If every time you do anything with them and the worst outcome that could possibly happen, happens. Take a step back. That is God showing you that these people don’t have your best interest.

By no means am I saying these girls are bad people, I loved them whole heartedly that I even sacrificed my own happiness for years. I would give give give until I had nothing left, until I completely lost myself. Where I was so weak I couldn’t even give them an explanation? How sad. Shame on me. I couldn’t believe I let myself get there, I didn’t know who I was, I didn’t have up those boundaries and standards to keep me afloat.

Those people are not toxic, they had toxic behaviors and intentions. The thing is I don’t think they even realized what they did. Because if you don’t communicate and tell someone what you don’t like. They will never know. You can’t expect people to read your mind and just “know”. I mean how many times have you unknowingly hurt someone’s feelings? It happens, we make mistakes. I am not perfect by any means, I was lying to myself for a very long time. (This was 3 years ago, I have since grown and thought about this for many years. I no longer have issues communicating. Which is why we go through these things. To learn.)

When God removes people from your life, you have to trust it. Do not ever go back, no matter how much you miss them, or the good times. We forget what it was actually like in that point in time, there was a breaking point where you couldn’t take it any longer. Remember that. Don’t go back to that. You’re smarter, wiser, and happier now. Don’t let them dim your shine.

To the close friends I once had, I’m not sure if you will ever see this although if you do.. you knew my dreams and that this was one of them. I hope you are happy, I am rooting for you from afar. I don’t take anything personally, and hope this gave you some clarity. I hope you forgive me as well. I am sorry that I hurt you. Even though we thought we’d be each other’s brides maids or traveling the world together. It just wasn’t meant to be. We both had to learn these lessons the hard way. I will always love and care for the both of you. Maybe one day I will hear from you, but for now it’s best to leave things in the past.

I hope this post helps someone, anyone know that you are not alone. Losing friends or any relationship is not easy it hurts. I am still healing from this and it’s going on 3 years. It takes time but God will remove people from your life to make room for genuine people aligned with your purpose.

Whenever you may read this, enjoy your life and live with no attachments. Spread pure love xx

Let’s Get Real About What’s Really Holding You Back

It’s been a minute. I have countless half-finished drafts yet to be posted. And still, procrastination creeps up. The point of this post is to state that procrastination is directly stemmed from insecurity. I’m honest about that, and that’s okay. It’s crucial for growth to be 110% honest with yourself, sometimes we create this perception of reality that isn’t our truth. My authentic self is a confident, goal crushing, light worker. I am all of those things, although I only see glimpses of her.

You have to give yourself time, master patience, and trust the process. You will see results in all aspects of your life through consistency. I believe there’s a formula to becoming your best self and bringing any dream to life. (Consistency + Accountability + Confidence + Manifesting + Action = Success) I’ve noticed this has actually come up a lot in conversation recently, I’m well aware there is something holding me back. It’s confidence. I’ve done all of the mind work that many people aren’t willing to do, I’ve removed toxic relationships and habits. I’ve switched from listening to music in the car to podcasts, I began reading books about spirituality and entrepreneurs. I stopped going out and drinking with people who didn’t even care about my well-being. I completely rewired my mindset. I don’t even know who that girl was 3 years ago, she was so weak, confused, and would do anything for people who wouldn’t even go an inch for her. It hurt, I forgave, moved on, and got stronger. I am so strong now that those minor things don’t even phase me, I am so clear on my intentions and goals. I know that the only thing standing in my way is me.

I decided to not get wrapped in deadlines, expectations, explanations, and anything else that takes power from my vision. STOP explaining yourself and doing shit you hate. STOP apologizing. (I used to have a bad habit of constantly saying sorry) No girl, you were just people pleasing. It’s okay, acknowledge it, forgive, forget, and move on.

I’ve been dealing with doubt, I am in the process of starting my own business. I’ve gotten mixed responses, most projecting their insecurities onto me. “There is so much that goes into it, more than you think.” or “You’re so young! Why rush into something like this, you should be going out with friends and focusing on school.” It seems like the people who have settled, are so quick to put out your fire. I said thank you for your input, with no explanation. As a creator and visionary it’s nearly impossible for others to see that vision. I didn’t take it personal, I took it as constructive criticism and began taking serious initiative.

This post is all over the place, but this is where my mind is at right now. I gave myself time, to see things clearly. I’ve been in a dilemma with my view on college, apart of me can’t help but feel it’s a scam. Although I’m so close to graduating I need to suck it up and finish. Everyone is on their own timeline, we learn things in different ways through different people and situations at different times of our lives. Some are meant to have a voice to change the world, while some are okay with just getting by. You can’t judge others for not having the same passion for change as you do, although just know you are special. God sent you here to inspire and help people globally, you are divinely guided by God, Jesus, angels, and spirit guides. They will speak to you through synchronicity, which is also a way to know if you are aligned and following your right path. I have seen for the last year but mostly last few months 555 EVERYWHERE! I’m talking 2-3 times a day. 555 means a huge change is on its way that will benefit every aspect of your life – a rebirth, and you are a divine being. In combination I’ve seen 444 which is your angels are with you and guiding you, sometimes I feel heaviness on my shoulders as if someone or something is actually pushing me. Pay attention when you see any sort of synchronizing numbers, every time I see them I have been talking or thinking about this new business idea. Or when I’m doing something good for my body, like eating healthy or going to the gym. It’s all a sign, to catch your attention. Some people aren’t open to receiving messages, I think that you have to be awakened and aware to a certain extent to receive and understand them.

I haven’t felt this good in a long time, since I’ve been taking care of my body and not holding myself to these crazy standards. I am not attatched to anything, I have let go of my ego and anything that doesn’t serve my highest good. I feel that within the next few months I will be a transformed individual, I will be unapologetically myself and confident. What is your intention for these last months of 2018? It’s never too late to break old habits and create new ones.

Thank you all. Spread pure love. xx

Surround Yourself with These 3 Types of People

Hello everyone! This topic has been on my mind these last few weeks. One of my good friends came to me a few days ago expressing an on going dilemma with a friend. She’s been feeling unfulfilled, unsure, and a sense of jealously from that friendship. I told her what I’m going to discuss in this post, and it really helped her gain clarity on the situation. She knew exactly what she needed to do.

I’ve had my fair share of failed friendships, now that I’m older and wiser I can spot it a mile away. If you feel your relationships are one sided, or even toxic. Consider taking a step back and look at the situation from an observation level. Ask yourself “How am I showing up in my relationships?” “What kind of partner am I?” Once you see things from an unbiased perspective, and hold yourself accountable. You’re ready to decipher who stays and who goes. It doesn’t have to be this huge dramatic ordeal either, you have the option to cut out whoever whenever. This can be done by slowly backing away, and declining offers to hangout. If you want to reach the next level you’re going to have to let go of the energy suckers.

People you can mentor/help

Once you let go of the toxic people, you may have people left who aren’t necessarily bad but just not lifting you higher. I’m sure there are people in your life that are negative, judgmental, and unsupportive. Although they have been in your life for years, such as family members or even coworkers. Sometimes it’s not as simple as having the option of cutting them out and never speak to them again. Keep those people at a distance of course. How can someone help you grow if they aren’t willing to grow themselves? Do what you can to inspire and help them, but remember you cannot change anyone. They have to want it themselves, but sometimes you can be the motivation for that person to change. Never risk your own happiness and sanity in hopes of fixing someone, you will go down with them. It’s important to help the next person, don’t go thinking you’re on some high horse that you’re better than anyone because you’ve learned certain lessons earlier than some. We are all on different paths and journeys, lessons present themselves at the right time when you are ready to learn. Let’s all help each other out!

People on your frequency

These should be your close friends and support system. Surround yourself with people who have similar morals, aspirations, dreams, and goals as you do. Don’t take this as you’re better than or above anyone. Although, we are all on different frequencies and vibrations. Ever hear the phrase “Your vibe attracts your tribe?” When you have anxiety, depression, jealousy, and negativity in your life it lowers your vibration. Which is why most peoples lives aren’t going how they’ve envisioned it, combined with feeling drained and unfulfilled. In result, this attracts more negative people in your life like a magnet! So when you raise your vibration, people on that same frequency attract to you. The universe doesn’t discriminate, it reacts in abundance to whatever energy you are putting out. Karma is real, it’s a universal law. Although you can’t cheat the life lessons, some things are written in to shape you into a stronger version of yourself. You are constantly being guided, trust that. There are people out there just like you, when you follow your passions it seems like those people appear out of no where.

People you aspire to be like

You should only take inspiration from others and never wish to be anyone but yourself. Since most people don’t necessarily have a mentor in their lives guiding them every step of the way. This could be an author, life coach, or entrepreneur you look up to. These are the people who have achieved and living your dream. These people will elevate you to the next level, especially when you don’t have that support in your current reality. Who know’s those people you look up to may even become your friends one day, the possibilities are endless!

Comment down below.. Have you ever let go a toxic friend, partner, or family member? What was the outcome? How did it change you?

Thank you babes! I can’t wait to read your experiences, I’m sure it’s something everyone can relate to.

Spread light and pure love.

xx

Alayna

21 Things I learned at 21

I turned 21 years old a few months ago, March 19th to be exact. Where’s all my Pisces babies at?? Man.. it wasn’t what I expected. I thought that night would consist of partying in Vegas popping champagne. Instead I found myself ordering my first legal drink with my dad at The Cheesecake Factory. Hey!! It was a Monday. Although it wasn’t what I anticipated, it was exactly where I needed to be.

I grew up kind of quick, I underage drank in high school at parties and universities. So by the time I turned 21, I was sooo over it. I’m not much of a drinker these days, I really wasn’t back then either. Trust me, I know how to have a good time! Although, I think social drinking is all about who you are with and what you’re doing. One thing about me is I love to celebrate! If you know me personally, you know I’m all about planning, the presentation, the wrapping paper I love creating an experience! Especially for the people I love. So I vow from this point on every birthday is going to celebrated in style.. God created YOU & girl are you RARE! It’s your special day and it deserves to be well spent.

Over these years I have learned a lot to say the least, I am so proud of how far I’ve come and where I’m going. I have met amazing and some not so amazing people who have shaped me into the person I am today. I am grateful for every situation and lesson good and bad that has passed and is to come. Think about it, we are all here to learn. It’s infinite. We never stop growing, experiencing, and loving. You can always be a better version of yourself, you already are her right now! You just don’t see it yet. I hope these lessons inspire you, comment down below your age and something you’ve learned that caused a turning point in your life!

1. Let Go

That’s right, let go of your past, negativity, relationships that no longer serve you, and expectations from society. Especially when utilizing the LOA and manifesting, envision yourself as that person, having it, feeling it, believing it. Then let it go and let God & Universe step in.

2. You don’t need to explain yourself to anyone

Stop telling everyone your story and playing victim, own it and move on.

3. It’s okay to be “selfish”

If you can’t love yourself you can’t give yourself fully to anyone.

4. Stop searching and start receiving

This goes hand in hand with #1, when you focus on yourself there is no need to search for anyone or anything. What’s yours is yours and will always be yours. Anything that is meant for you, will fall into place perfectly in divine timing.

5. Be unapologetically yourself

Am I making you uncomfortable and question you’re entire life?? Good. No one actually cares what you’re doing, if they do don’t take it personal they have it twisted sister and it has nothing to do with you.

6. There are no short cuts

Take your time, life is not a race. Comparison kills happiness. Be content and enjoy every step of your life, even when it gets ugly.

7. Boundaries are a MUST

This is something I learned two years ago, people only treat you as bad as you let them. Put up those boundaries, you should never risk your wellbeing to make someone feel comfortable. This goes for gossiping too, ask yourself “Why does this person feel like they can to me and say this? Stand your ground and speak your truth, even if it gets awkward.

8. Be Authentic

Always speak your truth and do whatever the f*?k you want.

9. Detach from your ego

Obviously you can’t completely get rid of your ego, we’re all human here. Although, you can control your thoughts and acknowledge them as not your genuine self. Pay attention to your intentions when you do things, want things, or buy things. Do you really want this, or do you like it because it will make you admirable to society or make others feel envious. Make sure to only do and buy things that genuinely resonate with you.

10. Stay single as long as you can

Everyone deserves love, and that person comes when you least expect it. So instead of dating to feel complete by another. Build your empire, fall in love with yourself, educate yourself, develop so much self respect your aura repels the f-boys. When you wait for someone to complete you, you’ll be left half filled. I believe a healthy fulfilling relationship consists of two individuals who are already whole coming together.

11. Shameless self promo

If you are following your dreams, you are eventually going to have to put yourself out there. That means people from high school are going to see.. don’t let that stop you. You need to get your message out there, you’re actually doing a disservice to others who can benefit from you.

12. If not this than something better

We get so attached to an end result or vision of our ideal life, which can happen. But when you get so obsessive you create resistance. Which leads to it never showing up, or by attaching to the idea so much you are actually stopping the universe and God from giving you something better.

13. Power of Patience

I’ve always pride myself in having patience, maybe it’s because my dad installed that in my brain my entire life. Meditation has always helped with this. Like I said before whatever is meant to be your is yours so don’t worry!

14. Don’t confuse schooling with education

Elon Musk says it best, I’ve thought about dropping out of college many times because I felt like I wasn’t getting anything out of it. And I could be putting that time and money into my own business. Which you can, and many other successful entrepreneurs have too. So many people have degrees, and are so lost and unenlightened. All I can say is read, listen to podcasts, and travel.

15. Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear

Shift that mindset to what could be instead of the brainwashing from society and old habits.

16. Maximize your resources

You have everything you need right now to begin and start your passion. Just let yourself be a beginner, let go of waiting for the perfect moment. It’s not coming you have to go out there and get it!

17. Accept the imperfections

I’m still healing and learning this, we were made perfect as is. Stop apologizing for talking too fast, or slouching because you feel you’re too tall. It’s okay to change things about yourself too.

18. If you don’t like it change it

First fall in love with and accept whatever it is you want to change. Then you will feel empowered to do whatever it is you need to gain that confidence back. I’m 110% an advocate for plastic surgery and doing whatever it is to make you feel confident and happy! As long as it’s coming from a place of love and respect, not hate and acceptance.

19. Action is everything

You can do all of the planning and mind work, God and the Universe is constantly conspiring for you. They will bring your manifestations to you ALWAYS. Whether you decide to take action or not dictates if you receive.

20. Always be the bigger person

Whether you’re letting go a long time friend, boyfriend, or dealing with a negative person. Don’t seep down to their level, express your truth with respect. Forgive, send them love, and move on.

21. You have the power to start over at any moment

There is no falling off your path, that is apart of your path! Everything happens with intention, whether you understand it now or not. If you don’t like how things are going, awesome there is always tomorrow to begin again. It’s never too late to reinvent yourself!

Thank you for stopping by, as always spread pure love and happiness!!

Xx

Alayna

It’s Never Too Late to Build New Habits

Hi everyone and happy Monday! This past week my emotions have been up and down. (This may or may not have something to do with the new moon.) I’ve been torn between feeling grateful yet unfulfilled. I am content with how things are currently aligning in my life. I understand things take time and the divine is constantly conspiring and guiding me. Although, I can’t help but feel antsy for what’s to come. I know my potential, but when it comes to taking action — I freeze. I think it’s because I know that if I take action towards what I’ve been dreaming about for years, there won’t be any more buffering time for excuses. It’s so incredibly hard to break old habits!

Personally I want to take my health to the next level, I’m constantly stalking these beautiful strong women on Instagram with my dream body. I’m aware it’s going to be hard work, and a lot of discomfort until I build that new habit and lifestyle. I always start but never finish. I have lacked consistency in almost all aspects of my life for years. This past year I really focused on why that is, I held myself accountable and began healing. It was fear. (btw it almost always is) You are going to doubt yourself and make mistakes, you have to just let yourself be a beginner so you can become an expert through the power of practice.

I challenge you.. to begin something you have been pushing back for years. There is never going to be a “perfect timing” you just have to start. NOW. When it’s ugly, uncomfortable, and when you’re insecure. Just think, what would yourself 5 years from now want you to do today? Focus on the 24 hours right in front of you, that’s it!! Do everything you can in those hours to get you to where you want to be, those small strides turn into big results overtime.

I will keep y’all updated on my fitness and health journey, comment down below a goal you’re working towards! 🙂

As always spread pure love and happiness.

xx

Alayna